Posted by: Edward | August 29, 2008

Reclaiming our Projections

Projection is one of the most common psychological quirks and one that greatly enhances our existence once we learn how it operates in our lives. Projection, simply put is when we see some aspect of our selves which we are not conscious of in the behaviour or character of other people, generally in an exaggerated manner. Most of the time these aspects of which we are unaware are negative as we generally have the most difficulty seeing our own faults. Of course, there are always some positives which are unconscious and projected. People with low self-esteem tend to project the most positives. Projection gives us an opportunity to discover missing parts of ourselves. Maybe you are saying to yourself, but I don’t want to discover bad things about myself. Well, you can’t correct a fault that you are unaware of. Many of these invisible faults can become strengths when we have conscious awareness enough to harness them.

Finding and reclaiming our projections requires putting effort into improving our self-awareness. When you react strongly to something someone else says or does, ask yourself if this is an overreaction to the occurrence. If it is then this is our first hint that you may have uncovered a projection. When you find something that you are overreacting to ask yourself if this is something you do or if other people could perceive you as doing this. Put some effort into imagining your behaviour from other people’s points of view. Now you may recognize this pattern as one you perform. If you do then the next thing you are likely to think is, “yeah but” followed by an excuse. This is perfectly okay. Use this offered reason to help you accept the other person’s action. After all, if the excuse is good enough for you then it’s good enough for them too.

There are a number of ways we could proceed from here. The first is to note this behaviour as part of your repertoire and stay conscious of it in yourself when you do it in the future. Truly getting a formerly unconscious behaviour into conscious awareness will result in your being able to stop or alter the pattern if the reaction is inappropriate to a situation.

The second is to figure out the purpose of this behaviour. You can begin by examining the “yeah but” that arose when you first realized that this was something that you did. Is this an adequate reason or is it just an excuse? You can then ask yourself, what does doing this get me or what wouldn’t happen if I stopped doing this? These questions help you get at what is called secondary gain. If you have figured out what this behaviour is doing for you then you can now brainstorm alternate ways to achieve those ends. You want to find at least three ways that achieve the positive effects without the negative side effects. Every time you notice yourself starting the old pattern use one of the new ones instead. If you really have found behaviours that meet all the positives of the old one then before long you’ll be doing the new behaviours without even trying. If you find yourself drifting back to the old habit think more about what other secondary gains it might have had and come up with new replacement habits.

The third thing to do with a recently discovered projection is to transform it into a strength. If it is a positive projection then chances are just discovering it will have allowed it to become a strength. What about a negative projection? In most cases the negative projection is problematic as a behaviour but if we think about it in terms of a capability we can find places in our lives where the skill that the projection required could be useful to us. Sometimes the projected trait is an expression of a desire or interest of which we are otherwise unaware. Discovering a new passion is one of the most enriching things we can do.

Thus far I’ve only touched on the advantages of being aware of your own projections but it can also be valuable to be on the look out for the projections of others. Have you ever noticed a friend of family member overreacting to some little thing you or someone else did only to think, but you do that too or but you’re even worse for that? If you have then you’ve seen them projecting. When someone is overreacting to something you’ve done because they are projecting it can help to realize that it isn’t really about you, it’s about them and their emotional reactions. This realization helps to keep you calm even while they are not. However, in order to hang their projections on you, the trait they react to must be present in some form. So while you don’t need to react to their reaction, do look at how your behaviour acted as a trigger and whether it would benefit you to change it.

Another interesting example of projection that you’ll regularly encounter is when people give out advice that suits a situation in their life better than one in yours. If you maintain awareness of this you’ll find that people teach you how to help them in how they try to help others. And of course, you do the same thing. Is there any advice you’ve given lately that you should act on?

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Posted by: Edward | August 22, 2008

Blame Language: why you shouldn’t say should

One place where we can leverage our effort to reduce victim playing effectively is in our language patterns. We can eliminate the tendency to use blame language and make a habit of using responsibility patterns.

Probably the worst offender is the word “should.”

“You should have,” “I should have,” “It should be like…” Any time you use “should” you are setting yourself up for failure and disappointment because you are opposing what people should do with what they WILL do and what the situation should be with what it IS. Using “should” allows you to be disappointed with reality rather than accepting it and allows you to blame people for falling short of your expectations.

In truth what you are saying when you say should is that you want it to be a certain way. Take responsibility for your desire, admit that you want it and look for ways to get what you want instead of blaming people for not doing what they “should.”

“Should” presupposes that it isn’t true or won’t happen. If you are thinking about the things you want to attract into your life in terms of “should” you are getting in your own way. If it’s something you want to have happen then tell your self that it WILL happen not that it “should.” If you are thinking about things you want to be don’t think that you are “supposed” to be them. Think that you are them and then just BE them.

It’s as Yoda said, “do or do not, there is no try.”

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Posted by: Edward | August 15, 2008

Playing the Victim

The biggest roadblock to attracting what you want is if you indulge in the victim mentality. The victim is someone that dwells on what they don’t want. They abdicate their responsibility for their own lives and with it their power over it. They don’t live their lives, their lives happen to them. A result of holding this mindset is the never-ending search for people to blame for their suffering, for the cardinal sin is to blame the victim.

I want to stress that I’m not talking down people who have had horrible events in their lives but there is a distinct difference between a victim and survivor. The difference is found in the response to the experience. Imagine the best possible excuse to indulge in the victim mindset, say being a prisoner in a concentration camp. Here is a clear case of something done to people with obvious people to blame. However take the example of Viktor Frankl. He had his life’s work stripped from him, most of his friends and family were killed, suffering barely imaginable as a prisoner of the Nazis. But Frankl discovered that even here he had freedom. Even in the horror of the concentration camp he had the freedom to choose his response to the situation, his attitude. Even when he had the least control of his situation he focused his attention on that for which he could take responsibility rather than on what was being done to him or who was to blame.

Victimhood is not something that is done to you, it is how you choose to respond to your experiences. If the clearest cultural example of a “legitimate victim” can choose not to be a victim then what excuse do any of us have? We simply have to define our lives in terms of what we do not what happens to us.

The first difference you will notice if you break the victim habit is that your life will quickly seem more pleasant even if your circumstances haven’t changed at all. This is because for every bad occurrence the victim spends more time thinking about it and suffering from it than it took to happen. They extend it further with searching for who is to blame. The second factor is that it feels better when you focus on what you can do rather than what happened to you.

The more you concentrate on what you can do the less bad things will happen to you. You will be able to avoid or prevent many occurrences that would otherwise trouble you. I am not saying that getting out of the victim mindset will miraculously make your life perfect but there are few circumstances that will not be improved by improving your attitude.

One of the hardest things to understand when first tackling the victim complex is that no one can make you feel anything. You are the person that produces everything that you feel, no matter what you are reacting to. Admittedly, for most people these emotional reactions are not under their control but there is no way to bring them under your control as long as you are attributing them to outside forces. Detailed instructions on how to increase your emotional control are beyond the scope of this text but simply maintaining awareness that you are producing the emotions rather than someone else is a start. The more we realize that we are doing this to ourselves, the less we will add to it the poisons of blame and resentment. As we choose not to imbibe these poisons we also stop trying to make victims of others.

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Posted by: Edward | August 8, 2008

Set, Setting and Dosage

The phrase, ‘set, setting and dosage’ originally comes from the psychological studies of psychedelic substances by researchers such as Timothy Leary. Dosage refers to the need to carefully calibrate the amount of the substance to the person taking it in order to achieve desired effects. Setting is making sure the dosage is taken in the appropriate environment to enable acceptable responses. Set is the mental frame that the participants approach the experience with to create the intended results. One of the keys of reality hacking is the awareness that these concepts can be applied to more than just substances.

Of the three set is by foar the most important. How you approach an experience does the most for determining how it goes for you. With a negative mindset you can make the most exciting or pleasurable experience miserable. I knew a guy that no matter how good of a time he had by the time he got back to his home or hotel room he had convinced himself that it had been horrible. If you listened to him too much you’d get convinced that you’d had a bad time as well. If, however, you approach a situation certain that it will go well for you and even if it doesn’t go exactly as planned that you will learn from it, then the lion’s share of situations will go better for you and you will learn from them. There are always variation beyond positive and negative and finding the best mindset for a situation will unlock wondrous experiences that the wrong perspective could never see.

Setting, while not as important as set, is still a powerful consideration. Setting includes the awareness that there is a time and a place for everything. If this is not the time or place for something then you should not do it. If the time and place are right then you’d be a fool not to do it. The setting also encompasses the sights, sounds, and smells in the environment. What props are available in the space is also a factor. Ritual magic is largely concentrated on the setting of the work.

Dosage is less important in non-substance work but should still be thought about. Basically if you bear in mind that there is such a thing as too much of a good thing. If what you are doing is exercising there definitely is both too little exercise and an amount that is overdoing it.

You can put these three concepts together and apply them to anything. For example, for jogging you can find the best mindset for you to jog in, an appropriate space and an optimal distance to run. Another example is in your work life. You can adopt the best mindset for work, find the most appropriate environment and make sure you work enough to provide for you needs but not so much that it harms your health or quality of life.

These three concepts are one of the simplest tools for fine tuning your experience of life. Pick an aspect of your life and think about it in these terms and write down in your hacking log changes you can make to the set setting and dosage that will improve that aspect of your life.

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Posted by: Edward | July 28, 2008

Cultivating Synchronicity

Synchronicity is like a layer of reality beneath the everyday surface that we interact with in our day to day state of mind.  Jung identified it as an acausal connecting principle between events that are not causally linked in material space/time. The normal experience of synchronicity is that of an irruption of meaning that manifests in reality through coincidental occurrences. The connecting principle is associative as events in space/time are experienced as connected by the human capability of pattern recognition. These associations tend to be highly symbolic revealing the mythic or archetypal nature of the synchronicity experience. They tend to be constructed of unconscious material at the border of the personal and collective.

The consistency and relative universality of the collective unconscious material makes the synchronicity symbolism function almost as a linguistic phenomenon, a conversation between the conscious mind and whatever intelligence it is that produces the synchronous. At times the experience may appear like a conspiracy between your unconscious and the universe. Recognizing the synchronous as, at least potentially, a conversation opens up a new type of experience of synchronicity. There is an opportunity for an active engagement with the synchronous.

Using the basic cybernetic principle that what you feed increases you can encourage synchronicity experiences by paying attention to those that you notice. If nothing else you will be training your brain to notice similar occurrences. As the synchronicities manifest themselves through coincidences, if you want to increase them you should create space in your life that the random or unexpected can happen. The more consistent and habit bound your existence is the harder it will be for the synchronous to break through to you.

One simple technique to create such space is known as the drift. When drifting, you go on a walk in which the route is not pre-planned. You select the direction to travel intuitively. This opens you up to experience things you wouldn’t normally. By choosing your route intuitively you also feed the synchronicities as they influence your path. As the synchronicities multiply in your life you will discover additional ways to interact with this layer of reality.

If you take up drifting, or even if you don’t, the synchronous experience will occasionally be accompanied by a physical object, sometimes natural other times something that has been discarded. You may feel that the appropriate action is to take this freely available object. If so and if it is safe and legal to do so, then I suggest you do so. These objects can be potent power objects or, at the very least, effective anchors of the mental states experienced.

Other times when faced with the synchronous you will get the urge to take some kind of action. Usually this action will be of a ritual or symbolic nature. Within bounds set by safety, legality, and your own common sense, I suggest you perform the action. Often later research has connected the action to traditional rituals related to the mythic content presented by the experience.

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Posted by: Edward | July 17, 2008

Hacking The Secret

The law of attraction, commonly referred to as The Secret, has become a popular conceit of the modern mindset. The idea behind it is that by maintaining a positive vision of what you want along with the proper mindset you can attract what you want to you. While how it functions is still a mystery, examples of it in my own life have been far too prevalent and in some cases dramatic for me to ignore it. The effect seems to be strongly connected to synchronicity and to operate in accordance with cybernetic principles. What follows are some of my tips and techniques for working with the law of attraction.

First is that what seems to be the most important factor is the combination of the vision and the right emotional tone. This is where the first warning comes into play. If you are constantly running through worst case scenarios and feeling doomed then this is likely how you will experience your life, as a serious of disasters which you feel trapped by and despair. When you have formed a vision of what you want make it as rich in terms of sensory experience as you can. Include what you can see, hear and what it would feel like. Make the image big and bright, the sounds clear and loud and the feelings very intense. When you have this image, make it a movie. Run it through and see it move. Now step into it. See out of your own eyes as it is happening. What you can do at this point is create a little hand gesture and catch phrase for this. Take all of those sensations of the goal experience and double them in strength. It is at this point that you make the gesture and say the phrase. This is what NLP calls an anchor. Use this anchor and call up the vision and the feeling regularly and especially whenever you feel yourself drifting into negative feelings and thoughts. Whenever you use this anchor you should also make the sensations stronger. Double them every time you call them up. Warning number two, it is very important that the feeling you concentrate on is the feeling of having reached your goal not the feeling of wanting it.

Once you have started broadcasting this signal of what you want, the system of the world will start signaling back. I call these signals synchronic confirmations. An alternate interpretation of this effect is that through selective attention you start to notice things relating to the desires on which you are focusing. Either way the result is the same. The signals back come on the synchronicity channel. You will notice these signals either because they relate obviously to the desire or because they feel a little like it. These signals must be taken seriously. Pay attention to them and if they represent an opportunity take them. There are two reasons for this. One is that what you reinforce increases. The other is that you are training your unconscious to recognize pathways that lead towards your goals.

Vectors are those angles by which fulfillment of your desire can come to you. The universe can’t provide you with something that is impossible. When you have created your vision you should also do anything in your power to make it easy for that vision to come true. If you’ve asked for money then set up a number of ways that money can come to you. If you are looking for a particular person put your self out where people like the one in your vision are likely to be. If you don’t set up vectors along which your desires can come to you they will quite often come to you despite yourself but things go much quicker and smoother if you make sure to make everything as easy as possible.

Another principle I’ve recently discovered to increase the propagation of an attraction signal is called priming and amping. I tend to do my law of attraction visioning in discrete sessions, frequently while walking with a particular friend of mine. What we will do is develop the vision we want in one session and then revisit the vision in the next session. On that second session we have a tendency to exaggerate the vision sometimes to the point of ridiculousness. Early results of the ridiculous session can occur as quickly as an hour later. These sessions can be separated by a day or two or can be as close together as a walk before dinner and a walk after dinner. This leads us directly into the next tip, the mastermind group.

This is a facet of the law of attraction program that The Secret leaves out. The normal approach to mastermind groups is needlessly formal. There is no need for a mastermind group to be large or follow a recipe book of rules. All you need is someone else that gets the secret and with whom you can discuss your vision. As long as you can maintain a positive non-judgmental discussion you have a mastermind group. The point is to build up, rather than tear down, each others vision for the world and the feelings that go with it. And you will find that as you share and brainstorm about you visions that you are greater than the sum of your parts, synergy as Buckminster Fuller called it. It may even seem like out of the two, or more, of you a third mind has formed. If you maintain this collaboration for a while you may attune to the point you can see each others synchronic confirmation.

Now that you have your vision and feeling anchored, you are looking for synchronic signals towards your desires, you’ve set up vectors that your desire can come in on, are taking advantage of every opportunity and you’ve already primed and amped your wishes… now what? Maybe its been a day, maybe its been a week, hell maybe its been a year but here you are and you don’t have what you want. In fact, your life is full of things you don’t want. You are starting to think… hey man this is bullshit. Alright. Now stop and think. Have you been applying these principles to things you DON’T want? Have you been thinking about a vision of what you don’t want, intensifying it, experiencing the feelings of it and then maybe giving that a name or a catch phrase? Have you been looking at your experience for proof that what you don’t want is on its way or here to stay? Have you been setting up vectors for what you don’t want to come to you, or even just leaving open existing vectors? If there’s a person who treats you like crap why do you still hang out with them? Have you been amping your fears and complaints every chance you get? Well stop it. What you feed increases. So stop feeding what you don’t want. Shut down as many vectors to what you don’t want as you can. Any time you find yourself feeding what you don’t want simply move your attention to what you do want. And remember its the emotional tone that matters. If you find yourself feeling like what you don’t want take a moment just relax your breathing. And as your breathing becomes calm and smooth fire off that anchor for the feeling and vision of what you want.

So take the principles I’ve outlined here, and start feeding what you want with your attention. Forget about feeding what you don’t want. You don’t need to believe it will work, you just need to play with it like a game. When synchronicity starts responding and you start to see confirmation, smile because now the game starts to get really fun. Find other people who are willing to play the game with you. Once you have the vision and you have the feeling then its only a matter of time before the universe realizes them in a unique experience for you. All of these tricks are just to speed up that matter of time.

 

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Posted by: Edward | April 25, 2008

Podcast about The Art of Memetics on G-Spot #30

My co-author, Wes Unruh, and I were interviewed by Joseph Matheny about our book The Art of Memetics on Alterati’s Podcast G-Spot #30 The Art of Memetics.

We discuss how our book came to have a pirate edition and many other issues AROUND the book.

Direct download link for: The Art of Memetics Podcast

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Posted by: Edward | April 1, 2008

The Art of Memetics Mastermind Editon

The Art of Memetics
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The Art of Memetics is a much needed text on memes and how ideas grow might and power and spread as if by magic. There is more actual magic in memes than I ever saw before reading this master text by Edward Wilson and Wes Unruh. If you want your ideas to spread, you’ll read this book twice.”
Jay Conrad Levinson

 

For a limited time (up until we get the first edition ready) we will be making a slightly cheaper version of the book available

This book will not have an ISBN number, will not be available on Amazon or in bookstores, and our reasoning for making this available is here, on my irreality biolog. If you are interested in reading this book, and don’t want to wait another month for the text to be laid out properly, the graphics professionally set, and teh copyeditor to change misspellings like teh into the, then this is the edition you want. (Plus it’s like almost two bucks off the first edition’s projected price.)

The Art of Memetics: Mastermind Edition is available now: http://www.lulu.com/content/2227110

“’The Art of Memetics’ flows through every version of who you were, are and will be, with a strength and purity of signal that is eager to assist you in becoming all you were born to be.”
John Harrigan

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“Not since Philip K. Dick and Robert Anton Wilson have I read a book that fundamentally altered the way I see and process media. The Art of Memetics extends the work of Marshall McLuhan into a media ecology of sympathetic coexistence, a model worthy of exploration if a sustainable equilibrium is valued.”

Ben Mack

Magician, Memeticist

Author: Think Two Products Ahead

 

“In the next 30 years our global existence is going to change as much as in the previous 100 years. We in the human community are going to experience radical shifts that will pull us in to more dangerous and enlightening places than ever before. It will come from thousands of profound actions, that together will boldly embody the deliverance of our new world. The Art Of Memetics written by Edward Wilson and Wes Unruh is one of those profound actions where science and art come together in a deeply historical union. I recommend this book highly to any creative, “traveler,” artist and potential visionary who wants to connect more fully with their own transition forward and better understand the intricacies of the unknown.”

Chuck DeWolfe

Artist, Art Coach, Entrepreneur

ArtCoaching.com

 

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Let Wesand I know what you think, and follow up on the bibliography if the book is not enough. Buy two copies of the physical book now though, because once the First Edition gets back from the copy editor and graphic designer, this Mastermind Edition will be phased out…

Wes says this on Key64.net: “Eventually we’d like to publish a revised, expanded second edition based on the feedback from this Mastermind Edition. Reading the Mastermind Edition brings you in on the discussion toward creating the revised, second edition, which will (we hope) become something of a fool-proof cookbook for personal branding, manipulation of egregores, and trans-media narrative magic… Buying this book gives us much needed funds to purchase an ISBN and work out a distribution method via booksurge while printing up promo copies to land a Revised, Second Edition publishing contract getting this out into more places. “

Posted by: Edward | March 4, 2008

Requisite Variety and Social Adaptability

Any person is a component in a cybernetic system of the social situations and contexts that they generally interact with. What component will have the most influence on the outcome of an interaction depends on what cyberneticists call requisite variety. Requisite variety is the number of options available to the component as a response to an input. The component, and therefore the person, with the most options available is at a distinct advantage in an interaction. This holds in social situations.

Let us take as a hypothetical situation two men competing for the attention and affection of a woman. The first has three basic tactics talking about shared experiences, physical sexuality, and violence. The other is additionally capable of intellectual conversation, mocking, and flirting. The second male can vary his response to the female or the first male more often and with greater subtlety. With his greater number of conversational gambits he can maneuver the other male into situations that he simply doesn’t have a response to or that he’ll make the wrong response to and he can engage the woman’s attention for more of her possible moods. Recently I witnessed an interaction very similar to my simplified description above. The more flexible male shut down his competitor to the point the competitor developed a new option, he drank until he passed out and didn’t have to compete anymore.

Another example of requisite variety at work is in the job interview situation. The interview questions are essentially setting the variety necessary to succeed. If the interviewee does not have enough options in their behaviour to answer all of the questions offered satisfactorily then his application is rejected. Requisite variety in largely expressed here by being able to recognize the questions behind the question and in being able to reframe your experience to be relevant answers.

There are three points in the response process that we can concentrate on increasing our variety in a useful way. We can work on our inputs, our processing, or our output. If we choose to concentrate on our input than what we would do is increase the subtlety of the distinctions we make. We would work on increasing the number of patterns we recognize. If we concentrate on our output then we increase the number of responses we can make. Increase the subtlety of our output and learn new ways of expressing ourselves.Finally, we can work on our processing. This is perhaps the most difficult to do. What you would want to do with the processing is to arrange the connections between the input and the best possible output in relation to it. In this what you are trying to do is look at the input you are getting in terms of what input you want from the other person and output. The processing phase is in this way the most complicated.

The processing step is most related to the idea of feedback loops. You have to have some model of the response you are looking for from the people you are communicating with. You have to make some kind of comparison between the signal you are getting and the one you want. Then you have to have some idea of what action on your part is likely to lead to the other people making their signal more like the one you want. In general we all do this naturally but it is quite possible to improve how well we do this. The number of potential processing steps is equal to the number of inputs you are capable of recognizing multiplied by the number of outputs you can do multiplied by the number of outcomes you want. The internal processes can quickly get unwieldy. Thankfully most of them are operated almost entirely unconsciously.

When engaged in this kind of fine tuning work on your responses the goal is not to make all of these options conscious for you. But to engage in a standard learning cycle. We want to move from unconscious incompetence to conscious incompetence to conscious competence and finally to unconscious competence. In general all of your processing and most of your input and output are unconsciously competent at what they are doing and unconsciously incompetent at what you are not doing. One way of going about this is to watch what other people are doing that you are not. Or looking for where the output you are doing is leading away from the response you are looking for. Once you have identified where you are incompetent you have already moved into phase two. Now what you need to do is find out what someone competent in these particular patterns do. Practice this until you are competent. Then keep practicing it until you are doing the more effective pattern without thinking about it.

Posted by: Edward | December 3, 2007

Politics is about Power not Freedom

The Political situation isn’t a matter of loss of freedom but of loss of power.

Thinking about it in terms of power rather than freedom does not change much in the experience but a lot in the avenues of response. Power is a percentage. Simply put it is the percentage of influence that a single participant, be it a person or a corporation, has over the outcome of the situation. Given the infinitesimal amount power held by individuals in modern societies, even tiny improvements could lead to great changes in the experienced power of a person or group.

There are always multiple avenues for power to be expressed. If we are losing power in one we can shift focus to another. More importantly we can leverage our power from one to improve our power in another. This is what the corporate elite have been doing for decades. They’ve used their concentrated wealth power to gain control of media’s reality framing power to disempower us and gain control of the political power.

If we want to empower ourselves we have to work on these three fronts and work to sever the corporatists ability to leverage their financial power over the other two fronts. Thanks to the internet, the media and communications realm is the one in which we have the most opportunities for power. The strategies of the corporations, centralization of their power and separation of the population into individuals is perhaps one of the best strategies that we could take. Division for the corporate power blocks and concentration of popular power.

If we wish to enact this strategy in the political realm we need to rally behind the only slogan that matters at the moment, “Power to the People.” We need to remember that the mainstream media is owned by the same corporate interests that have taken our power so we need to ignore their attempts to create wedge issues. Wedge issues are merely how the corporate elite divides and conquers the public. After people have more say in the running of their countries then we can work out the other issues.

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